Although stress actually has gotten a bad name for itself, we actually need it in our lives. Everyday for that matter- “Eustress” is the type of stress that gets us where we need to be on time, Getting a promotion at work, the holidays, riding a roller coaster, and Child birth are all examples of eustress or good stress.
Then there is the bad stress “distress”. This is the harmful stress. It can lead to depression, hypertension, headaches, gastrointestinal problems like nausea and diarrhea and sleeping problems. Eating problems (over or under eating), smoking, and alcohol and substance abuse are almost always related back to some form of stress.
One of the main things we can do to reduce distress in our lives, is to learn how to better cope with
eustress. Doing things stops it from turning into distress.
If we know the signs of distress we can learn to catch our selves and teach ourselves to take a step back and look at the situation in a different way. The common signs of distress can be mental and or physical
Mental signs- anxiety, moodiness, feeling scared or apprehensive of the present or future, and sleeping issues.
Physical signs- teeth grinding, nail biting, high blood pressure head aches, loss or increased appetite, or eating over eating when not even hungry, back, neck and chest pain, lowered immune system
There are many, many causes of stress we each face every single day- traffic, work, relationships, taxes, money etc.
Any thing that causes stress is called a “stressor”
Hans Selye developed the stages of stress and how they relate to illness
Stage 1- The alarm stage
Physiological responses such as increased heart rate and blood pressure, release of hormones like
epinephrine and increased muscle tension. This can result in headaches, anxiety and changes in eating
and sleeping patterns.
During this stage people are more likely to get sick because of the compromised immune system and
suffer from lack of concentration
Stage 2- The resistance stage.
This is when the body tries to cope with the stress. This could be positive or negative depending on the stress
Stage 3- The exhaustion stage.
This is where the body becomes susceptible to diseases because the body is unable to deal with the
new stress. The body’s endocrine, cardiovascular and immune systems have become compromised they are stretched to there maximum capacity. Prolonged stress can cause heart, lung and kidney disease, diabetes, long colds or flu’s and catches just about every infection in the air.
The third stage can negatively affect the ability to learn, make decisions, interact with people or be able to exercise. The body is just not built for this kind of stress.
10 tips for managing stress
1. Know yourself. – understand what your body goes through when it senses stress coming on.
2. Learn what coping strategies work for you
3. Get organized.- by getting organized your taking control of your life by the way you spend your
time and energy
4. Exercise- 3-5 times a week. Even if it is just 15- 30 minutes. This will increase your cardio health
and be able to handle the stress better. Exercise is a good way to release stress as well
5. Take part in activities you enjoy (such as sports teams, reading, )
6. Relax- learn what relaxes you and do it frequently (bubble baths in candle light, yoga,
7. Like your self - liking yourself involves giving yourself positive feedback and support. Also when
you truly like yourself you are less likely to cause harm with alcohol, smoking or drugs- illegal or
8. De-clutter your house, car, head and keep it clean.- clutter causes stress and confusion
9. Have a person you can talk to – about anything, with out judgment
10. Rest- get a minimum 6-8 hours of sleep most nights. If your body requires more get more, if it
needs less- sleep less.
I wanted to post about stress because my topic for this site (or group of sites) is starting your life over again for various reasons.
-Maybe you need to claim bankruptcy to start your financial life over.
-Maybe you need to retrain yourself with what you are fueling your body with, how you are getting your physical activity and of course, how much money you spend while doing it.
-Maybe you need to do upgrading courses and apply to college and/ or university when you are pushing 30
Regardless of the reason that you need to start your life over- They are all going to be stressful leading up to, during and probably even after.
I personally have or am going through all 3 of the bullet points above. Life is stressful.
There are a few things that I personally do to ensure that my life is as stress free as possible.
-I have recently found a love for tea, which pairs perfect with a good book.
-I make sure that my house is clean all the time and when its not, I get to clean it, which again relieves stress. Its not that I like cleaning because trust me I dont. The after feeling is just a clear mind. There is no way that I could sit in my dirty cluttered house with a book and tea and relax.
-A bath with candles has always been my number one
-I write, hence 4 blogs at once. I need to have other areas to write about when I don't want to think about my finances.
I'm not here to say that the methods that work for me will work for you. These are merely suggestions. Ensure that you have something. anything that gives you mental release